All of us dread that one phone call that delivers the horrible news that changes our life. You can’t prepare for that and no one wants to think about it.
But those moments are the slap of cold water that makes us realize we’ve been underappreciating those loved ones we value most. It doesn’t matter if you’re a planner and you have a dozen strategies to handle the unexpected. Things happen that you don’t expect.
Something happened to me recently that taught me three important lessons that I need to share with you now, before it’s too late.
Lesson 1: Value Your Time With Loved Ones
As you know, I am very close to my mom. She raised me and I’m the only child in my family. After all these years, she came to Vancouver and saw for the first time what I have been teaching at my exclusive Closers In Black ™ event in October. That event was an important milestone.
To give you some context, my mom and I struggled financially when we first arrived in Canada. Over time, I worked hard to build a business and become a business mentor to thousands upon thousands of entrepreneurs around the world.
The Closers in Black ™ event was the first time I was meeting many of those students in person for the first time. My mentor Alan Jacques was also there, so it was an emotional moment in my life. Having my mom there to see me in action, speaking on stage in front of 1000 mentees was one of the highlights.
But after the event, she wasn’t feeling well so she went back to Taiwan and got checked out by the doctor. Unfortunately, she was diagnosed with first-stage cancer. The news was devastating.
Immediately, she went into surgery and started treatment. Of course I was shocked because the news was unexpected and I was in Japan on vacation when I got the phone call. Fortunately, I could provide her with the best medical care, the best nurse, and the best doctor. After her surgery and while I was still in Japan, she recovered very quickly.
That reminded me that you just never know what will happen. One day the family and friends in your life could be perfectly healthy. The next day, the people you love can get sick. As you get older, you see people around you get sick and pass away. My mom’s cancer reminded me how short life is and sometimes how fragile.
You don’t have forever. You see your family once a year and you might think, I’ve got 40 more years to see them. But you don’t.
If you see them once a year, you have maybe 20 times to see them. You don’t have 40 years. If you look at life that way, it creates a sense of urgency. Life is short. Don’t wait to spend time with family.
That’s the first crucial life lesson. The second lesson is a bit more controversial because there are people who believe that life is not about the money. I disagree. It’s not about the money, but rather, what money can do for those you love.
Watch this video as I talk about the lesson people learn in life too late.
Lesson 2: Money Is Important In Life
It’s not about the money. Money can’t buy love. It can’t get me the time with my mom and my loved ones. Money can’t buy health. With this incident with my mom, I was fortunate. Sometimes you do what you can to eat healthy, exercise, and get enough sleep, yet misfortune happens.
I had no money when my father needed care. It was the worst feeling of hopelessness when I couldn’t provide for him financially back then. It’s too late now, and we can’t turn back the clock. But I don’t want to feel that way again. I’m fortunate enough now that when my mom gets sick, I can afford the best care for her. So when people say money is not important, that’s a lie. Money is important.
Here’s another reason money is important. It can give you time.
Time with family is irreplaceable and memories are irreplaceable. Lillian, Co-Director of Support on my team, values time with her daughter, so she made an important decision when she reached a cross-road in her life. How could she balance time between her career and her family?
Growing up, she had always appreciated that her mother worked only minimally and made spending time with her children a priority. She was always there to pick them up from school, cook meals, and listen to them when they needed advice. However, the traditional two parent, one income family isn’t that common anymore.
Lillian wanted to open a business to have more control of her schedule, but realized it would take even more of her time than a regular job. Then she took my High-Ticket Closer ™ program and realized that with a high-income skill, she could work from home and make a high income with fewer hours.
Now she says that “I can enjoy the flexibility of working from home, being part of a great team, and being able to spend time with my family when I want to. I also would like to show my daughter that there are many types of nontraditional jobs out there, and it is worth the look and learning to find out what works best for the individual.”
Time with her daughter is what she considers success in her eyes.
That’s my second important life lesson. Money can’t buy love or time, but it can give you a career that gives you the flexibility and the income level to spend the time you want with loved ones. The third lesson is a lesson we all know but don’t want to think about.
Lesson 3: You Don’t Know Everything That Can Happen
Each day, I spend time asking myself, “What don’t I know and what don’t I see?”
I want to anticipate the challenges that I will face in my business and my organization. But what I’ve learned is that I don’t know everything. I can plan and plan extensively, yet the unexpected can happen. What happened with my mom was very sudden.
The best I can do is prepare. I am always learning and growing, improving my business, building my investments. Saving my money for the right time for when I need it.
I also have a sense of urgency. We’ve heard the saying, “Life is short” but too many of us don’t take enough time to plan for the unexpected, so when family members do need help, we have the money and the resources to do that.
Sometimes, what it takes is a child’s perspective to make us realize what value we bring to the lives of our loved ones. Emma, daughter of my Co-Director of Support, Susan, was given a journal on the first day at her new school.
Emma is seven, and at that age, writing is more about getting ideas on the paper, and not what you’re actually writing. She wrote a story about how her mom is a High-Ticket Closer ™ and she works with HTM leaders – Closers who lead their own team of Closers who close deals in sales. She described her mom as someone who helps people to fit properly into what they are learning so they will be successful. Then she drew a picture.
Susan said, “We as parents try very hard to make sure that we give [our children] the very best possible opportunities and we try to give them the things that we know they need for success in this day and age.”
Emma surprised her the other day when Susan wanted to spend time with her but she said, “But Mom, you need to go make some money. Go back to your meetings.”
Emma already had a concept of entrepreneurship. She understood her mom didn’t work in a traditional office, at a traditional job where she exchanges time for money. She understood her mom brings value to clients and the value is what brings the income and wealth.
Her perspective of the world has been shaped by her mom’s experiences in an entrepreneurial world.
We don’t know everything that could happen tomorrow, but we can prepare and help our loved ones to prepare for the future.
Final Thoughts On 3 Life Lessons
Don’t wait until you get a wake up call to spend treasured time with the people you love. Value the time you spend with them, and make the time to be with them because you don’t know what could happen tomorrow.
Some say money isn’t important, but having a career that gives you the income and flexibility to spend more time with your family is something that cannot be replaced. Being able to prepare your family for the future is equally important.
What is one special moment that you have with your family? Comment below.