Whether you’re happily married, not yet married, happily single, or married and working through some issues, there is something you can take away from these tips on spending quality time with your significant other.
When you’re busy building a business, it’s easy to get caught up in your meetings and your work and the everyday hustle. Yet you still want to make time for that important person in your life: your significant other. If you lose that connection, it’s likely your relationship will suffer. So how do you do it? How do you stay connected?
My wife Jennie and I are busy all the time and I’m probably one of the busiest people that I know of. So how do we spend quality time together? I get that question a lot from our fans and people around the world because they know how busy we are with our business. Yet we manage to spend quality time together.
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1. Define What Quality Time Is
First of all, you have to ask yourself and your partner to define what quality time is. Some people think quality time is spending time with kids. Others think it’s sitting down and having a talk. Other couples watch a movie. So everyone has a different definition.
How do you satisfy the other partner or yourself? You need to sit down and ask each other this question. Quality time to you may not be the same to your partner. Maybe doing the dishes for your spouse is quality time. Or going to see a football game with your spouse.
You need to find that happy medium for both you and your partner. Some make quality time an obligation, such as Date Night every Tuesday, and weekly activities every Sunday. They repeat this schedule like it’s mandatory. Eventually, it becomes routine and boring. That’s not quality time. What you need is a more meaningful connection.
2. Find Time For a Deeper Connection
They think it’s quality time because they are blocking out time weekly for their partner. But proximity doesn’t count! It doesn’t count that you’re sitting close to each other.
If you’re not speaking, or just asking the other if the utility bill was paid, you’re not making time for each other. Your bodies might both be home, but you’re not really there. There’s no connection between the two of you.
It’s like you’re two strangers in different rooms, one watching TV and the other doing something else. That’s not quality time.
It’s better to have one hour of true quality time than five hours spent in close proximity in the same house. Ask yourselves, do you connect? Do you communicate?
Jennie and I spend so much time together. We work on projects, tackle challenges, and build businesses. We see clients together. All of that is quality time.
Walking hand in hand on the beach or in the forest, that’s not our quality time. Quality time is a deep connection. When we’re done work and we’re sitting on the couch and watching a movie, that’s our quality time, our “down time”. Sometimes we don’t even talk, but we’re relaxing and we’re connected. Quality is in the interaction.
3. Time Blocking With Your Partner
A bonus tip is to share your calendars. This way your spouse can see where you have an empty slot in your schedule and you can book a dinner together or some other activity. This saves time so you’re not wasting time going back and forth to find out when the other person is free.
This kind of time blocking is not about neediness, like having to spend 10 hours a week with your partner to show you love your spouse. It’s quality, not quantity.
That’s a healthy relationship. Having that trust and that balance. As well as communication.
Final Thoughts on Spending Quality Time With Your Spouse
Spending quality time with your significant other is important if you want to keep the relationship strong. When you’re an entrepreneur, especially if you’ve just started your business, it’s easy to let your business become a part of your personal life.
Whether you’re married or in a serious relationship, you need to block out time to have a deeper connection with your significant other. If you’re not taking the time to connect, it’s easy for the two of you to drift apart.
Even if you’re happy being single and you’re an entrepreneur, it’s a good idea to define quality time for yourself and time block so you have that time to spend with either close friends or family.
Achieving success as an entrepreneur is one goal, but we must remember to spend quality time with the people we want to celebrate our successes with.
How do you connect with your partner? Comment below.