Are you experiencing that painful feeling of emptiness each and every day? Do you feel lost or feel as though your life lacks purpose? Does it feel like an emotional numbness? Are you experiencing a lack of motivation, chronic fatigue, or unsettling anxiety while feeling empty inside?
The first thing you need to know is that you are not alone. These feelings are very common, and these feelings occur when you’re unfulfilled in life.
If you’re aware of the problem, that’s the first step. Self-awareness is the first step, because you’ve admitted there is a problem.
Now it’s your job to take action and do something about it. If you’re experiencing a very distressing feeling of emptiness, know that nobody can drag you out of the rut you’re in, except for you.
It’s up to you to figure out a way to feel fulfilled. It’s up to you to figure out what your purpose in life is, which often comes with discovering your special gift, skill, or talent.
Where Does That Feeling of Emptiness Come From?
As I said before, that feeling of emptiness is very common and often feels like an emotional numbness. Sometimes it’s unbearably painful, and can almost feel like you’re longing for something that is missing in your life.
There are various reasons why people feel empty inside. Sometimes it is because there’s something missing. Other times it’s because you haven’t yet figured out what your passion is, or what your special gift or skill is. This can leave you feeling empty because you don’t know how to contribute to the world around you in a meaningful way.
Many people are searching for something meaningful to commit to, or feel empty without a plan or a mission.
Another reason people experience feelings of emptiness is because they don’t have anything to get excited about. Their job is boring or unsatisfying, they haven’t found the great love of their life yet, and they don’t feel excited to wake up in the morning.
Sometimes, you’ll feel empty if you miss something or someone, as missing something can leave a hole in your heart. It’s possible you miss a person you recently broke up with, or you miss a job you were recently fired from. The feeling of emptiness when someone or something leaves you behind is normal.
Self-love is crucial to overcome a feeling of emptiness. If you start to achieve your goals, and find a purpose, you’ll begin to love yourself and feel fulfilled.
A feeling of emptiness is very common when you realize you have a very long list of unrealized goals, and you hate yourself for it.
What Should You Do If You’re Feeling Empty Inside?
One of the first things you should do if you realize that you feel empty inside, is sit at home alone and in silence. No TV, no music – just be alone with your thoughts. It’s time to do some real thinking, where you’re honest with yourself about your true desires, goals and dreams.
Write down all of your desires, goals and dreams. You’ll start to feel better the moment you put pen to paper and write these things down.
Once you realize what you’re yearning for, you can write down a list of action steps that will help you get those things.
For example, if you are unfulfilled at your job and you want to quit, write down the steps you’d need to take to quit your job. Perhaps you need to learn a new skill, which would allow you to become self-employed and work remotely, and that means you can quit your miserable job.
Listing out these action steps provides you with a newfound sense of direction, which can help dissipate that feeling of emptiness.
If you think what’s missing is life achievement, figure out what you want to achieve and why. Perhaps what you want to achieve is something specific, or perhaps you just want to achieve success or significance.
I believe that in life, we go through four important stages:
Let me explain each of these four stages in more detail.
The Survival Stage
When you’re in the ‘survival’ stage of life, you’re just trying to get by. You’re trying to make it. Perhaps you have a job that doesn’t pay that well, or perhaps you don’t have a job at all. Maybe you are still in school. Many people in the ‘survival’ stage have just graduated college and they’re trying to pay off their student loans. They feel stuck because they have to pay their rent, and pay for basic life essentials needed to survive, and any extra money goes to their student loans. This feeling of barely making it can result in that horrible feeling of emptiness or a feeling of anxiety. But you have to keep trying – you have to keep surviving.
In this stage, you’re just trying to survive, and it takes up a lot of your energy. You’re trying to pay the bills. You’re probably living paycheck-to-paycheck in the survival stage.
The Security Stage
In the ‘security’ stage you’re no longer struggling. You’re doing ok. In this stage, you’re able to pay your bills, you’ve got a roof over your head, and you even have a car.
In the security stage, you’re not struggling to make ends meet, so you feel comfortable. You feel safe and secure.
Sounds like a good spot to be in, right? Well, maybe not so much. You see, the danger of the security stage is that you can start to get complacent. For some people, when they get to this stage, they stay in it. Why? Because they get too comfortable. When people feel comfortable where they are, and they feel okay about where they are in life, they forget about their potential.
People who feel safe and comfortable often forget that their life could go from good to great if they just aim a little higher and set some goals for themselves.
If you get too comfortable in the security stage, you won’t strive to do more, or be something greater.
The majority of the population is in the ‘survival’ stage or the ‘security’ stage.
If you’re reading this article, however, it’s probably because you want something more than that. The next two stages are where you can reach something greater and get more than just a ‘secure’ life.
The Success Stage
In the ‘success’ stage, you’re now successful. You no longer worry about money. You’re no longer worrying about how you’re going to pay your bills each month.
When you’re successful, you don’t just have everything you need… You now have everything you want as well.
You don’t just have a house, you have your dream house.
You’re not driving a car. You’re driving the car you want to drive.
In the success stage, you no longer look for a budget hotel when you take a vacation. No, you stay in the fancy hotel that you want to stay in. You get your dream vacation.
Success is beautiful. But there’s still one more stage I want to share with you, and that’s significance.
The Significance Stage
When you feel significant, it’s an indescribable feeling. You’re able to do what you love, and be looked upon as a leader or someone to learn from and look up to – that’s significance. When you’re able to impact so many people’s lives, you feel like you could even leave a legacy.
You know you’ve reached a stage in life where you can leave behind a legacy, you will feel truly significant.
In this stage, you feel a profound sense of purpose.
You feel important, admired, and extremely fulfilled. You don’t feel empty inside. This is the stage I am at right now, and I feel very blessed to have reached the significance stage in life.
How Do You Transition From Security to Success, and Success to Significance?
Since most people reading this are in the security stage where life is comfortable but not incredible, I’m sure most of you are wondering how to transition into the next stages – the better stages – of life. You’re probably wondering how to transition from security to success, and from success to significance. You might even be in the first stage – the survival stage – wondering how to make it over to security and success.
The answer for all of the above, is your level of skill.
I believe that by acquiring the right skills, you can transition all the way from the survival stage to the significance stage of life.
Your skills are what pay your bills. Acquiring the right skills – high-income skills – allows you to gain financial security, and ultimately financial confidence. By learning the right skills, you can always count on yourself to produce a good return. You can learn various high-income skills, and leverage those skills to transition into success.
My communication skills, copywriting skills and closing skills are the skills I used to transition from the survival stage all the way to the success stage, and finally to the significance stage.
If you’re not sure which high-income skill you’re best suited for, and you’re not sure which skills you should develop to get yourself to the success and significance stages of life, what should you do? Start by watching my free masterclass webinar on High-Ticket Closing. This is a very lucrative, high-income skill that can definitely take you to the next level if you master it.