Would you like to choose your future or would you like your future to choose what happens to you?
Our future is determined by the people we surround ourselves with. Yet most of us choose friends, significant others, and coworkers we feel comfortable around. We aspire to be rich or three times more successful, but we don’t make an effort to socialize with the type of people we aspire to be. So how do you find like-minded people to hang out with?
If you want to get out of your environment and stop being with people who don’t support you, or if you want to become a better version of yourself, don’t look for people with the same habits, mindset, or income level as you. Don’t fall into predictable patterns and fall back into familiar social circles.
Rich, successful people make a conscious effort to build friendships with people who have the traits that they aim to have in themselves. You can do the same.
Decide what characteristics you aspire to have, and look for that in the people you socialize with. It could be an abundance mindset, strong willpower, gratitude, strong work ethic, and a strong desire to be several times more successful. Then turn the tables around and ask yourself, why would like-minded people want to hang around with you?
You are who you spend time with. So let’s have a closer look at ways you can find like-minded people and become a better version of yourself.
What I’m going to share with you are three ways to find like-minded people to change your environment.
Watch this video on finding like-minded people.
Stop Spending Time With The Wrong People
When I was a teenager, I got into a lot of trouble. That was one of the reasons why my family immigrated to Canada. The second was the relationship issue with my parents. They got divorced and my mom didn’t want to stay in Hong Kong. She wanted to move to Canada.
The third reason was I was getting into a lot of trouble. I was in a gang, getting into fights, smoking cigarettes and all that stuff. One time, my parents had to go to the police station to bail me out.
I was about 13 years old at the time. We were on the second floor of the police station and the police officer was telling my dad, if I kept this up, I was going to be in jail. He had to get his son out of that environment and socializing with the wrong people.
Shortly after, my dad made a decision and pulled me out of Hong Kong, and boom! I was in Vancouver, Canada, a completely different environment. I couldn’t hang out with the people I was hanging out with anymore.
Instead, I was in a new country without any friends. I was supposed to make new friends, ones who didn’t get into trouble and did well in school.
That became the new issue: Why would like-minded or more successful people want to hang out with me? What value did I bring to the table?
No one wants to hang out with toxic or negative people, or people with a bad past. I had to change and be a better person if I wanted to hang out with better people. The best way was to find a mentor.
Hang Out With Your Mentor
When I was in my early 20s, I was working with my first mentor, Alan, who belonged to a mastermind group. At the time, there were six people in the group and all of them were very successful millionaires.
I was the youngest guy, the least experienced and the least successful. Because I was working with Alan, he would bring me along to those mastermind meetings. I would sit and observe, take notes, but not say a whole lot. I was the poorest in the entire group.
By belonging to a group like that, it expanded my contacts and possibilities. I was learning from these entrepreneurs who were more successful and experienced. It was interesting that at the time, I was worried about thousand dollar problems, and they were talking about million dollar problems.
At first I was nervous being at these meetings. I felt so out of place while they talked about investments and business ventures. I didn’t have enough money at the time to even think about starting a business venture. But by going there about once a month, by the eighth time, something inside me clicked.
I realized I could do what they were doing too.
They were just hard-working people. Very smart. But I didn’t get the feeling that because they made 20 to 50 times more money than me, they were also 20 to 50 times smarter. They definitely didn’t work 20 to 50 times harder.
It changed my belief system. I thought I could do what they were doing too. That was the first way I found successful, like-minded people to hang out with.
Find Like-minded People At Events
The second way is to go to events and meet people face to face. You need to get out of your own city and your own environment.
Go to conferences and spend a little money. Get on a plane and meet some interesting people because that’s how you build relationships. That’s why even at this point, as successful as I am, I still go to conferences. However, I’m a lot more selective at this point than I used to be, back when few people knew who I was.
I would go to certain conferences where I would meet new, interesting people because I know that one relationship could change everything.
If you want to meet new people, you need to invest a little bit of money. Go meet the people you want to meet with. Go hang out in that environment. It’s very critical to do that, even if you’re busy day to day.
Three-day events are an ideal situation because you’re locked in a room and they’re not going anywhere. Chances are, they are staying at that hotel, and you could hang out with them. You could buy them lunch.
I’ll give you one quick secret. One time when I was attending an event with multiple speakers, I saw one speaker in the pub by himself after he had done his presentation. I walked up to him and asked if I could buy him a drink. We talked for three hours.
He probably got paid tens of thousands of dollars to speak for 90 minutes. I got three hours of personal time with him by buying him a drink for a few dollars.
There are so many of these opportunities. You just have to keep an eye out for them.
Meet Like-minded People Online
The third way to meet like-minded people is on the internet. There are good Facebook groups you can join. No different than my High-Ticket CloserTM community with students from around the world. We’re all connected with the same mission and we share the same values. That’s where they hang out. The HTC Family.
By belonging to a Facebook group, you can find like-minded people. You don’t have to restrict yourself to meeting people face-to-face. Sometimes you can meet with them virtually and start a conversation.
You want to have a community you can go to when you have challenges, where you’ll be understood. You’ll realize you’re not the only one with that problem. There are others who have been down the same road who can help you.
If the environment you are in right now is not super supportive, it’s probably toxic. You can make a decision to get out of that and find people with the same goals as you. Many of my students share a similar story. They want to change their situation, but their family opposed them. In the online community, they get advice and support.
You always have a choice. If you don’t like the small town you’re in, move. If you don’t like the big city you’re living in, find a new one.
You have the power to choose. Remember, you are who you hang out with. Be very, very selective. There is a saying that you’re the average of the five people you hang around with the most. These people can bring you down, or bring you up.
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