Do you know how important it is to find like minded people who can support you on your journey towards success? What would you think of someone whose friends are all partiers, often get drunk and end up wondering what happened from the night before?
Now, what would you think of someone whose friends all gather for a book club dedicated to reading self-help books and tossing around ideas on how to improve themselves?
Do you have a clear image of those two very different types of people in your head?
If you had to choose one of these two types of people to hire (and it had to be one of the two) who would you hire?
I don’t even have to be a mind reader to know you’d pick the one who had friends dedicated to self-improvement, rather than the one who hung out with partiers.
There’s a lesson that one of my mentors, Dan Peña, taught me. He always says, “Show me your friends and I’ll show you your future.”
Our future is determined by the people we surround ourselves with. Yet most of us choose friends, significant others, and coworkers we ‘feel comfortable’ around, rather than choosing like minded people to surround ourselves with. We aspire to be rich or successful, but most people don’t make an effort to socialize with the type of people who we aspire to be.
How do you expect to become the person you want to be if you don’t hang around like minded people who have achieved the kind of success that you desire?
If you want to change your life, you must first change your environment.
Why? Because every time you try to change, the people around will try to pull you back.
Maybe you’ve noticed it already? You do one thing out of the ordinary to try and improve yourself, but your friends question it. They ask, “What are you doing? Come on, let’s just hang out like we always do!”
They pull you back in, and they make you feel guilty. Some may even have the best intentions. Like your parents, they’ve probably encouraged you down a path to get a safe and practical job.
But doesn’t that boring path stop you from pursuing your bigger goals and dreams?
Like-minded people who have big dreams like you do, will not encourage such mediocrity.
So, how do you find like minded people to hang out with? Here’s how you can find like minded people that will help you change your environment, and help put you on a path towards success.
Watch this video on finding like minded people:
Stop Spending Time With The Wrong People
When I was a teenager, I got into a lot of trouble. That was one of the reasons why my family immigrated to Canada. The second was the relationship issue with my parents. They got divorced and my mom didn’t want to stay in Hong Kong. She wanted to move to Canada.
As I said, a big factor was that I was getting into fights, smoking cigarettes and all that kind of trouble. One time, my parents even had to go to the police station to bail me out.
I was about 13 years old at the time. We were on the second floor of the police station and I remember the police officer telling my dad, “If your son keeps this up he’s going to be in jail. You have to get him away from these bad influences. He’s hanging around with the wrong people.”
Because of the environment I lived in, I developed a lot of bad habits that stuck with me for years. If my dad didn’t make the decision to pull me away from my life in Hong Kong and drop me into Vancouver, Canada, my life today would be completely different.
I was forced into a new environment in Canada, separated from the people I was hanging out with in Hong Kong (the ones who got me in trouble). Now I had entered a new country with no friends. I was supposed to make new friends, ones who didn’t get into trouble and did well in school. But that became the new issue.
“Why would anyone more successful want to hang out with me?”
Who would want to hang out with a toxic or negative person, or someone like me with a bad past? I couldn’t even speak the language. My English was very poor. How could I make friends? I tried to keep my head down, but I ended up catching the attention of bullies. Rather than make friends, I hid myself away.
But this was at least an improvement from before. I no longer had any bad influences around me to pull me down, and I was free to try and improve myself without judgment from others. I was lucky because all of this happened when I was young.
My parents put me in a situation where I was forced to improve myself, and forced to end my relationships with bad influences. If you want to improve, you’ll have to put yourself in a situation that forces you to improve as well, before it’s too late. Eventually I got into business and that’s when I discovered positive influences in my life.
I owe all of my success to the mentors that I’ve had. I learned a lot from them and I learned how to become more productive. If you want to be a better person and hang out with better people, then the best way is to find a mentor.
Hang Out With Your Mentor
When I was in my early 20s, I was working with my first mentor, Alan Jacques, who belonged to a mastermind group. At the time, there were six people in the group and all of them were very successful millionaires. Everyone in the group was like minded people.
I was the youngest guy in the group, the least experienced, and the least successful. But because I was working with my mentor Alan, he would bring me along to those mastermind meetings. I would sit and observe, take notes, but not say a whole lot. I was by far the poorest one in the entire group which actually meant I was the one benefiting the most from the knowledge being shared.
Belonging to a group like this expanded my contacts and my opportunities. I was able to learn from successful entrepreneurs who were years ahead of me with much more experience and many more achievements than myself.
At the time, I was more worried about thousand dollar problems, but they were talking about million dollar problems. I was nervous at first, felt a bit out of my element, like I didn’t fit in with these successful people.
Felt so out of place in those meetings, especially while they talked about investments and business ventures. I didn’t even have the money to think about starting my own business, but it was a highly valuable experience for me to hear about their experiences.
After going to my eight meeting, something inside me clicked. I realized, I could do what they’re doing, too!
Even though they were making 20 to 50 times more money than I was, I noticed that they weren’t 20 to 50 times smarter than I was. And they definitely didn’t work 20 to 50 times harder.
This realization changed my belief system. It allowed me to see myself doing what they were doing. This group was the first way I found successful, like minded people, to hang out with.
Find Like Minded People At Events
Want to meet like minded people? Get out of the house and go to networking events where you’ll meet like minded people face-to-face. .Open yourself up to a new environment. This is actually the way that I met my first mentor, Alan, the one I just told you about
I always used to receive these marketing letters from Alan Jacques. I admired those letters, even collected them and kept them in 3-ring binders because I loved the marketing style of them.
One day, I went to one of the free events that was run by Alan. I was sitting there listening to the speaker, taking notes, when I looked over to the man next to me. His nametag read, Alan Jacques.
“No way!” I thought to myself. I asked him, “Are you the Alan Jacques?”
“Yes, I am,” Alan responded.
“I love your work!” I exclaimed.
“Thanks, I’m glad you like the event.” You see, Alan thought I was talking about the event, but then, I confirmed what I meant:
“No, I love your marketing letters! The direct mail marketing!”
Alan was shocked. Noone had approached him like that before. Most people just threw away the letters and there I was, a random kid, getting excited over some pieces of paper.
I didn’t let the opportunity pass me by. I offered to take Alan out to eat and he said yes. That’s how I met my first business mentor.
Get Out Of Your City
You can have fun by going on a trip outside of your city, but turn that trip into a business opportunity. Go to conferences, spend a little money, get on a plane if you have to. Meet some new and interesting people. That’s how you build relationships. That’s why I still go to conferences now, even though I’m already very successful..
I’m a lot more selective now than I used to be, but back in the day, I would go to certain conferences with the goal of forming new relationships that could change everything.
If you want to meet new people, you need to invest a little bit of money. Go meet the people you want to meet with. Go hang out in the environment that they hang out in. This is critical to connect with like minded people.
I would say, three-day events are the ideal situation because you’re all in the same place together for 3 days, and they’re not going anywhere. Chances are, they’re staying at the same hotel as you, and you could hang out with them. You could offer to buy them lunch the same way I did with my first mentor.
And I’ll give you another little secret: One time when I was attending an event with multiple speakers, I saw one speaker in the pub by himself after he had finished his presentation. I walked up to him and asked if I could buy him a drink. We talked for three hours.
He probably got paid tens of thousands of dollars to speak for 90 minutes. I got three hours of personal time with him by buying him a drink for only a few dollars. I caught him at the right time, and that’s what it’s all about.
There are so many of these types of opportunities waiting for you. You just have to keep an eye out for them.
Meet Like Minded People Online
You don’t always have to meet people face-to-face to build meaningful relationships that could change your life. The third way to meet like minded people is on the internet. There are tons of great Facebook groups you can join. Niche Facebook groups help you meet like minded people who share your goals.
I wish I had access to these online groups when I was first starting out. With that in mind, I wanted to make sure that I gave my students from around the world this opportunity that I would have loved to have. That’s why I created my own groups such as the High-Ticket Closer and High Income Copywriter communities.
These niche communities are a place where everyone can interact and support each other because they’re all connected with the same mission and share the same values. We lift each other up when the rest of the world is trying to pull us down.
You need to have a community that you can go to when you have challenges, where you’ll be understood. You’ll realize you’re not the only one with that problem. There are others who have been down the same road and can help you along your own journey.
The Like Minded People of the World
By belonging to a Facebook group, you aren’t restricted to meeting people face-to-face. You can find these like minded people from around the world and start a conversation. Later it could turn into something greater.
You will be surprised at the amount of people with similar stories or backgrounds, even from the other side of the planet. Many of my students want to change their situation, but their families are opposed to what they’re trying to do. But in the online community, they’re able to get the advice and support they need to make their dreams a reality. Here, in these groups of like minded individuals, they feel supported and understood.
If the environment you’re in right now is not very supportive, you can make a decision to get out of that environment and find people with the same goals as yours. You always have a choice. If you don’t like the small town you’re in, move. Don’t like the big city you’re living in? Find a new one. If you don’t think the people you hang out with are inspiring, meet new people.
You have the power to choose. Remember, you are who you surround yourself with. Be very, very selective. Don’t bring people into your life who will pull you down. Surround yourself with like minded people in whatever way possible.
The Power of Like Minded People
As I said, I wouldn’t be where I am today if it wasn’t for my mentors and the positive influences that I’ve found in my life. Meeting like minded people changed my life.
Do you want to get out of your environment and stop being around people who don’t support you?
Become a better version of yourself?
Be able to build the life that you always dreamed of?
You won’t have a better life if you don’t change your environment, and if you don’t stop hanging around with B-players. If you don’t like where you’re at in life, don’t look for people with the same bad habits, mindset, or income level as you have right now. Don’t fall into predictable patterns and fall back into familiar social circles.
Rich, successful people make a conscious effort to build friendships with people who have the traits that they aim to have in themselves. You can do the same, and start meeting more like minded people who will help motivate you to succeed.
Decide what characteristics you aspire to have, and look for people who possess these characteristics, then socialize with them. It could be an abundance mindset, willpower, gratitude, a strong work ethic, and an incredible desire to be several times more successful.
Once you figured out the traits that you want for yourself, turn around the question and ask yourself, “Why would these like minded people want to hang around with me?”
The answer can be as simple as a willingness to learn and improve. Successful people love to share ideas and knowledge with people who are willing to use it and apply it.
Showing a passion and a willingness to learn can be all you need to take the first step in finding like minded people to hang out with. It also helps if you explain to them how you could add value to their lives if they agree to mentor you.
“What Can I Do Today To Start Finding Like Minded People?”
The first step is to remove the bad influences in your life. You won’t be able to enjoy the benefits of being around like minded people if you still spend most of your time with bad influences. They’ll always pull you away from where you’re trying to go.
Next, go somewhere you don’t usually go. Find the places where the people you want to associate with hang out. This can be through live events or online communities.
Online communities are some of the easiest ways to surround yourself with like minded people. As I mentioned, I built groups for my students so they could all interact with other like minded people. It’s all online, but that doesn’t mean it has to stay online.
I’ve seen my students set up their own meetups in their cities, and actually meet each other in person. If they’re traveling the world, they go find where the other members are and meet them in person. I’ve never seen a more friendly and supportive community on the internet. And we work hard to keep it that way.
In our groups, people who pull others down and are stuck in their ways are removed. We don’t waste any time with people who aren’t willing to improve because if there’s just one bad apple, it could ruin the entire group.
Lastly, and the step I believe to be most important, is to find a mentor. A mentor has already gone through all of the hardships that you’ll face and they’ll be able to guide you around them. I wouldn’t be anywhere close to the level of success I have today if I didn’t have my mentors.
Not only did they bring me along to meet many amazing people but they also taught me the skills I needed to achieve success. I like to call these High Income Skills.
If you want to be one of my students and join a friendly and supportive community then click here to discover which high income skill you were born to do. Take the first step in changing your environment. You don’t have to be stuck where you are now.
I’ve taught many people how to get out of the same old patterns that kept them feeling stuck and alone. And if you get me as your mentor, I can do the same for you. I look forward to helping you along your journey to success. Click here to take the first step.