Have you ever wondered how to get your parents to support you? My mom didn’t believe my journey of entrepreneurship. Neither did my dad.
I remember when I first got started I told my mom:
“Hey mom, I’m going to quit school and become an entrepreneur. I’m not going to college anymore! Instead, I’m going to do my own thing.”
I was excited and full of energy when I told her. At that time, I was young and ambitious, and making that decision was a leap of faith for me. I had no idea if I would succeed or not, but I knew I was going to try my absolute damn best. When I looked at her face, the pride I had in myself for finally making the decision to drop out, was shattered in an instant.
“Son, what did you just say?” The expression on her face was absolute shock. She looked at me, at her son, as though I had just said I killed someone.
“I’m going to be an entrepreneur, I’m going to do my own thing. I’m not going to college anymore.” I was anxious now, expecting my mother to support my decision. Instead, she gave me a strange reply, one that I would later discover the true meaning of.
“Okay. We’ll talk about it over Dim Sum.”
That was the end of the conversation. At least until a few days later. You see, during those few days my mom made several phone calls. And it wouldn’t be until a few days later, that I would find out exactly who those phone calls went out to.
The Infamous Dim Sum Ambush
It was a beautiful morning in Burnaby, Metrotown. My mom and I decided to talk over my sudden desire to drop out over dim sum at one of our favorite restaurants. Little did I know, sitting at the table were all of her friends and our relatives. In that moment, what started out as an innocent breakfast turned into a heated debate about why I should stay in school and finish my degree.
For hours we went back and forth about our beliefs. They spent hours talking about why my choice was a bad one, why I shouldn’t take risks at such a young age, why I should listen to my mom. And I spent hours talking about why dropping out was a much wiser decision than staying in school. I had made the decision to drop out, and I wasn’t going to be convinced otherwise. By the end of our dim sum lunch, I managed to convince one of my uncle’s to loan me money to start my new business idea.
Don’t Expect Your Parents To Believe In You
It wasn’t my mom that loaned me money. Or my dad. Of all the people I tried to convince, it was my uncle that ended up loaning me money. You see, you can’t expect your parents to believe in you. You have to earn it.
Once I dropped out, I got to work. Every single day for five years, I worked 12-14 hours a day. I was laser beam focused on my work. Instead of hanging out with friends, chilling or going to parties, I stayed at home and worked. I didn’t even watch TV – that was how determined I was. When my mom saw my determination through my actions, only then did she start to believe in me. She saw that I wasn’t being lazy by not going to school, she saw that I was willing to do anything to become successful. That I had something I was willing to lay everything on the line to achieve. Either I made it and became wildly successful, or I would die trying.
Your parents are doing what they believe is the best option. For them, they don’t know anything about entrepreneurship, or how outdated the school system is. They grew up with a different set of beliefs – and as your parents, want the best for you. I truly believe that at the core of every parent, they want their kids to grow up successful and happy. So if your parents don’t believe in you, that’s okay. You just need to believe in yourself, and prove to them it is possible.
Actions Matter, Words Do Not
When I made the decision to drop out, I showed my conviction through my actions, not words. Most people are ‘wannapreneurs’ – they say they’ll become an entrepreneur no matter what and inspire everyone around them with their passionate words. But when it comes to actually doing the work, they don’t get anything done.
When your actions don’t match your words, people are not going to believe you. Imagine you had a child that wanted to become an entrepreneur, but you see them spending hours on Netflix or playing video games. Would you take their ambitions seriously, or would you think they are slacking off? If you want your parents to support you, you have to stay focused.
The truth is that most people think becoming an entrepreneur and running your own business is easy. In reality, it’s much tougher than you could ever imagine. If you think school is hard and that starting your own business is the easy way out, you are going to be in for a tough life lesson. If you don’t believe strongly in what you do to the point that it becomes an obsession, you can’t expect anyone to trust what you say.
Forget Seeking Validation From Others
If you want to become successful, you have to think about why you are doing it. Humans are wired to seek validation. Studies show humans devote up to 40 percent of their time to self-disclosure, and doing so is as pleasurable as having food or sex. People are inclined to seek validation from others – it could be family, friends, or people on social media. The problem is that you will always have people who doubt what you do no matter how successful you are. The only person who will know whether or not it is true is yourself.
Even though I am wildly successful, to this day I still have people that do not believe me. In your journey there will always be haters – people who will call you a liar or scam artist. It is impossible to become successful without picking up some haters along the way.Behind every successful person lies a pack of haters. - Eminem Click To Tweet
I remember once picking up my dad from the airport, when he came to Vancouver to visit us. I was driving him in my car, and at that time my businesses took off and I was experiencing a little bit of success. At the time I was making a decent income, and already involved in teaching and speaking at seminars and workshops. He saw one of my CD’s, and decided to put it into the car and press play. After about 20 to 30 minutes, he looked at me and asked:
“Are you still doing that internet shit?”
And I looked at him and replied: “Yep Dad, I’m still doing that internet shit. And it’s that internet shit that got me this car that I’m now driving you in.” Even after so many years, my dad still doesn’t understand what I do and thinks I should get a job. So don’t be irritated if your parents don’t believe in you – deep down they want you to become successful.
Don’t Live For Other People – Live For Yourself
If your motivation to become successful is so you can brag about it or prove someone wrong, that is not a good reason. Do it for yourself and not anyone else. Don’t do it to make your parents happy or impress your friends, because that will end in disaster.
Let’s say the reason you want to become a millionaire is so you can provide a comfortable lifestyle for your family. Your motivation is so you can make your parents proud, by allowing them to stop working and live a luxurious life – one they never managed to achieve. But what about the event where something happens to them? What if they’re no longer able to appreciate what you’re providing them with, or they pass on?
In that moment, your entire life is going to be turned upside down. You have spent the last few years working your ass off to become successful so your parents could have a good life. But now they are no longer here. The motivation that drove you to keep going all this time, is suddenly gone. What’s going to happen to you now? What’s your purpose for becoming successful?
That’s why it is very important that you live for yourself and no one else. For me, I had a very strong belief that I would make it as an entrepreneur. And I was determined to turn my belief into a reality. Even though all my friends, relatives and even my parents were against me, I still did not give in. I still did what I personally thought was the right choice, and ignored what everyone else said. I turned my beliefs into words, and my words into actions. For many years I worked tirelessly to make my dreams come true, and eventually made it to who I am today. That’s how I got my parents to support my dreams – by making those dreams a reality.
A Great Leader Leads By Example
The only way you will make others believe in your dreams is to believe in them yourself. The best leaders are the ones that lead by example – that take action to make their dreams a reality. When you put your dreams into actions, they become stepping stones that take you closer and closer to your goals.
As you continue forward on your path, you will begin to pick up followers. People will start to notice the hard work and effort you are putting in, and cheer for you. And along the way you will also start picking up haters, that try to bring you down. If the belief you have in yourself is not rock solid, you will eventually give up. The negativity and hateful comments from other people, will make you doubt yourself and your decisions. That’s why it’s important to truly believe in what you are doing, because only you will be the constant source of motivation needed to keep going.
A leader that knows where to go does not rely on his followers for directions. He forges onward bravely, and carves his own path to walk on no matter what stands in his way. He doesn’t make excuses or justify why he isn’t able to succeed – he knows that in order to make his dreams come true, he is the one who must step up and make them happen.Ships don’t sink because of the water around them; ships sink because of the water that gets in them. Don’t let what’s happening around you get inside and weigh you down. - Unknown Click To Tweet
The Path Of An Entrepreneur Is Not An Easy One
Becoming an entrepreneur is not easy. People will not believe in you or support your dreams – including your closest friends and family. When I made the decision to drop out, I didn’t rely on the approval of anyone else.
I believed in myself, and was committed to becoming successful no matter what. I worked tirelessly for years, choosing to focus on my work over partying or visiting friends because I knew what was more important. That’s why I have friends today that are jealous of my success, and even say bad things about me behind my back. I spent my early 20’s working to improve my life, whereas they spent their time enjoying it.
I personally believe in supporting people’s ideas, no matter how absurd they may be. As someone who struggled to make his dreams a reality and finally become successful, I understand what it’s like to have no one believe in you when you are just starting out. That’s why I always share advice with the younger generation, especially budding entrepreneurs, because I want to see them succeed and make their dreams come true the same way I made mine.
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